By Angela Liddle
I have long heard that as people age, the shock factor decreases and very little about human behavior is surprising. That was not my experience as I heard Milo Yiannopoulos’ comments seemingly advocating for sex between young teens and adults. I mean seriously, what the hell is this man thinking? I am uncertain if he should be considered a fool or a misguided idiot in asserting the notion that adults who have sexual relations with children under age 18 are somehow helping them “experiment with their sexuality” and that the sex was “consensual.” The only thing that brought my blood pressure down into normal range was reading and hearing the outrage expressed around the country. That, and the fact that he lost his job too.
In fact, Milo’s assertion is a gross affront to any moral and legal interpretation of children’s rights. Teresa Huizar, executive director of the National Children’s Alliance, wrote brilliantly about the Milo controversy, “…fascinating as it is to recount Milo’s many other transgressions, his gut-churning comments about child sexual abuse reveal a vile and all-too-common myth: that children can somehow consent to sex with adults. They can’t. Full stop.” Excellent comment. Remember it and repeat it if ever you hear another fool or misguided idiot suggest that children can consent to sex with adults. You can add it to the list of things children under age 18 cannot do. They cannot vote. They cannot purchase tobacco products. They cannot consume alcohol. Stands to reason, does it not, children cannot consent to sex with an adult. Full stop!
The sexual abuse of children – and that is exactly what it is – is a major black eye for the state of Pennsylvania. When you consider Jerry Sandusky’s serial sexual predation of children, the multiple ongoing grand jury investigations into child sexual abuse in the Catholic dioceses around the state, and the daily news reports of allegations of institutional sexual abuse in our schools and other organizations, Pennsylvania has rightfully been termed by some observers as Ground Zero – an epicenter – for the sexual exploitation and abuse of children.
Sexual abuse was involved in 47 percent (1,960) of all substantiated reports of child abuse in the 2015 Annual Child Protective Services Report published by the Pennsylvania Department of Human Services. Let’s be clear about this: These 1,960 children were not building their résumé of sexual experiences. They were being abused by adults who damn well should have known better. These adults were perpetrators and should feel the full force of our state’s law. And these children were victims and they deserved to be safe and cared for in the communities in which they lived, went to school, and played.
Almost immediately after hearing about Milo’s very bad day when he should have remained silent, I read an equally impactful article in the Baltimore Jewish Times by Toby Tabachnick. I was not half way through the article when I decided to be a huge fan of Toby. And the reason is simple. She was telling about one more situation where a teacher was accused of sexually abusing students, this time at Yeshiva Boys School of Pittsburgh. However, rather than sensationalize the situation for news circulation, she told the facts about what the school had done as soon as they learned of the abuse from a member of the community who saw the teacher “touching a child inappropriately” in the school library. Yeshiva followed a near textbook proper response. The administration immediately removed the rabbi from the school, contacted ChildLine (PA’s hotline for reporting child abuse), and cooperated fully with law enforcement. Yeshiva communicated with parents after consulting law enforcement and held a meeting with the broader school community. School leaders prepared for the worst by having their staff fully trained on child abuse prevention, recognition, and reporting. Quite simply, Yeshiva chose to put the care and protection of their students above their own convenience as an institution. How different the current battle around the elimination of the statute of limitations for child sexual abuse victims might look if other organizations and institutions had been so honorable. So, kudos to Yeshiva and Toby Tabachnick for reminding us all there should be zero tolerance for the abuse of children, that community members have a critical role to play in child protection, and that there really are institutions that do the right thing for children.
I have spent the past 30 years working in child abuse prevention and I certainly was not surprised to read about these champions for children, but it sure was nice to read. Let’s each do our part to make sure there are more stories where folks knew what to do to best protect children – and did just that. To learn how to do your part, please visit www.pa-fsa.org.
By Angela Liddle
I’ve noticed lately that I’m weary from “bad news.” Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that we gloss over the dangers and atrocities in our communities. You know what I mean; the kind of news that tells us despite all our good works, bad things happen that we can scarcely imagine before we view it on television, hear about it on social media, or read about it in those nearly-extinct publications called newspapers. I am suggesting we bring a greater balance into our daily conscience, like appreciating the moments that bring joy to our lives. There’ve been a few things that have made me smile broadly in recent days; people and situations that have made me feel proud to be part of this human race – literally and figuratively speaking.
I just finished a radio interview with RJ Harris at WHP 580 iHeart Media in Harrisburg to tell central PA listeners about PFSA’s kick off to our new PA Blue Ribbon Champion for Kids campaign. The goal is quite simple: To shine the light on everyday heroes who do their best to protect children. We ask Pennsylvanians from every region of this commonwealth to help us highlight those individuals – teachers, social workers, doctors, neighbors, regular folks – who have done something special to protect a child. Maybe their act was truly one of heroism by stepping in during a crisis to save a child from imminent death; maybe it was simply being aware of a need and ensuring that a child was properly fed or clothed; or maybe it was just being present in a child’s life as a tutor, mentor, coach, or volunteer in a community organization or sports team. In other words, we are looking for folks who did the right thing, at the right time, and it made all the difference in the life of a child.
When I explained this concept to RJ, he smiled the most genuine smile and said, “Isn’t that nice?” And it really is. It’s time for us to acknowledge the good that is around us. Maybe when we see and hear what others do for children, it will motivate each of us to do more than we believe we are capable of doing.
I opened my local paper recently and read about a very humble man who saved a five-year-old girl during a bizarre attack at a day care center. I’m not sure I would have been as courageous given such a dangerous situation, but I would like to think I would have stepped in and done what was needed.
What I do know is I am both grateful and proud of this man who had no legal obligation to take action on behalf of that little girl. Somewhere inside his soul, instincts of goodness and valor arose and he acted upon them. I believe we all have the grace, kindness, and humanity to cheer one another to do the right things by the children in our midst.
So, I ask you, please, to think about the people in your community who act on behalf of the best interests of children. And then, nominate one of these heroes as a #PABlueRibbonChamp. You can do so by visiting www.pablueribbonchampion.org, download the nomination form, and make sure to return it to PFSA by February 27th . Finally, please follow and support our campaign on social media and in your communities because every child deserves and needs a champion!